Proverbs 14:1 Every wise woman buildeth her house: but the foolish plucketh it down with her hands.
http://yoursacredcalling.com/blog/2011/02/how-to-tear-down-your-own-house/
Discourage and hinder him from following the dreams God’s given him and do not support them, sabotage it even, especially when they bring personal risk (Genesis 2:18)
Refuse to submit to your husband (Ephesians 5:22-24 (5:25-33); Colossians 3:18)
Use your tongue as a weapon; insult, mock him as it makes him feel so valued and appreciated (It’s your best asset!)
Share your husband’s failings with others (his friends, your mother, and anyone else who cares to listen)
Be unfaithful & untrustworthy, betray him continuously (Prov. 31:11-12)
Gossip about your family
Be careless and sloppy about your appearance
Be lazy and carelessly spend money
Be covetous of what others have
Disrespect your husband to your children
Be hyper critical of your husband and children & nag them constantly (men love this!)
Ignore the housework (come up with creative excuses for undone work…”The dog ate my cookbook”)
Watch soap operas and fantasize about how much kinder, attentive, and romantic other husbands are
Make your husband “earn” his times of intimacy with you (you could even use a point system for good behavior) (1 Corinthians 7:4)
Be sure to let your husband know everything that irritates you (preferably when he walks in the door from work)
The above is definitely not exhaustive
i leave you with :
"... the man she had destroyed was her own husband, who had now left her for another woman. By her own admission, her heart had never really been in her home. She had loved her work more than her family and had failed to fulfill her God-given responsibilities as a wife and mother. Now she was living with the lethal consequences of her foolishness.
'I am the epitome of the foolish woman you described. ..., I've been this foolish, adulterous woman. I now see the tragic consequences ... in my husband and in our marriage. I have also planted these vicious seeds in our precious daughter.
I have emasculated my husband, because of my selfish, arrogant, manipulative, intimidating ways and words. How terribly, terribly wounded he is because of me.
I have taken him down to the very core of Hell itself because of my ungodly, willful ways. Today he took the wife of another man to church with him. How could I have driven such a wonderful man to do such a hideous thing before God?
God help me. I see how wrong I've been. I'm trusting in His Word for healing, cleansing, and restoration of my vile heart.'"
https://www.lifeaction.org/revival-resources/revive/sexual-sin/portrait-foolish-woman/
Other references - key interest point is many are by women
Stronger reproach by men have been omitted ... for now
http://chalcedon.edu/research/articles/the-wise-woman-and-the-foolish-woman/
http://bc4women.blogspot.com/2011/06/foolish-woman.html
http://www.luke173ministries.org/466777
http://proverbs14verse1.blogspot.com/2009/06/foolish-woman-destroys-her-home-by.html
http://www.fnirevival.com/Deliverance%20Sermons/Rebellious%20Wives%20and%20Slacker%20Husbands.pdf
http://www.ucg.org/beyond-today/trustworthiness-in-the-marriage-relationship (para 4 of When your trust has been betrayed is telling)
http://www.thewordout.net/pages/page.asp?page_id=74725
shawlome
Wednesday, 6 May 2015
lie ... lying ... liars
lie ... Oxford defines it as an intentionally false statement
everyone has lied at one time or other
children lie because they're scared or afraid of being found out
which consequently leads to punishment
or because they've been threatened, coerced, harassed or coached
or because they want something they wouldn't get if truth be told
adults are pretty much the same
but there are those who scheme
those who lie without batting an eyelid
those who lie as naturally as breathing
and see nothing wrong in it
either because they grew up in such an environment
or they discovered it helps them achieve desired ends best
or they have no intention of keeping their word in the first place
or not keeping one's word is a way of life for them
a back-up escape hatch when they can't or don't want to keep their word
and because they have never been taken to task for it
they continue with impunity, actually believing it is justified
with whatever reasons they can come up with
despite knowing it is (morally) wrong
and the possible repercussions and consequences it may bring
liars continue to justify it
not even conceding they are in the wrong
i have lied as a child and an adult
i have been found out
and the lessons impress on me it ain't worth it
it just ain't worth it ... it never is
despite having lived on both sides of the coin so to speak
it just ain't worth it
realising it, understanding it ... is one thing
but actually seeing the consequences coming to pass ... naturally,
is an eye opener in itself
when someone lies or does not keep their word
repeatedly without remorse, regret or misgiving
for selfish reasons
with the insouciant gall of being right or the nerve expecting to be forgiven
without a shred of sincerity or change
such can no longer be trusted nor relied upon
the saddest part is ....
they're lying to themselves, continuously
consequently depriving themselves ... ultimately cheating themselves out of
joy
love
trust
intimacy
respect
satisfaction
camaraderie
cooperation
pleasure
companionship
well, the list goes on ... you get the picture
a lie is a lie
a white lie is still a lie
people came up with 'white lie' for self-justification
remember the story of the boy who cried wolf ?
in the end, when it mattered most, nobody believed him because of his lies
i leave you with:
Proverbs 19:9 - A false witness shall not be unpunished, and [he that] speaketh lies shall perish.
Proverbs 12:22 - Lying lips [are] abomination to the LORD: but they that deal truly [are] his delight.
Psalms 101:7 - He that worketh deceit shall not dwell within my house: he that telleth lies shall not tarry in my sight.
Luke 8:17 - For nothing is secret, that shall not be made manifest; neither [any thing] hid, that shall not be known and come abroad.
1 John 2:4 - He that saith, I know him, and keepeth not his commandments, is a liar, and the truth is not in him.
Proverbs 12:19 - The lip of truth shall be established for ever: but a lying tongue [is] but for a moment.
John 8:44 - Ye are of [your] father the devil, and the lusts of your father ye will do. He was a murderer from the beginning, and abode not in the truth, because there is no truth in him. When he speaketh a lie, he speaketh of his own: for he is a liar, and the father of it.
Revelation 21:8 - But the fearful, and unbelieving, and the abominable, and murderers, and whoremongers, and sorcerers, and idolaters, and all liars, shall have their part in the lake which burneth with fire and brimstone: which is the second death.
everyone has lied at one time or other
children lie because they're scared or afraid of being found out
which consequently leads to punishment
or because they've been threatened, coerced, harassed or coached
or because they want something they wouldn't get if truth be told
adults are pretty much the same
but there are those who scheme
those who lie without batting an eyelid
those who lie as naturally as breathing
and see nothing wrong in it
either because they grew up in such an environment
or they discovered it helps them achieve desired ends best
or they have no intention of keeping their word in the first place
or not keeping one's word is a way of life for them
a back-up escape hatch when they can't or don't want to keep their word
and because they have never been taken to task for it
they continue with impunity, actually believing it is justified
with whatever reasons they can come up with
despite knowing it is (morally) wrong
and the possible repercussions and consequences it may bring
liars continue to justify it
not even conceding they are in the wrong
i have lied as a child and an adult
i have been found out
and the lessons impress on me it ain't worth it
it just ain't worth it ... it never is
despite having lived on both sides of the coin so to speak
it just ain't worth it
realising it, understanding it ... is one thing
but actually seeing the consequences coming to pass ... naturally,
is an eye opener in itself
when someone lies or does not keep their word
repeatedly without remorse, regret or misgiving
for selfish reasons
with the insouciant gall of being right or the nerve expecting to be forgiven
without a shred of sincerity or change
such can no longer be trusted nor relied upon
the saddest part is ....
they're lying to themselves, continuously
consequently depriving themselves ... ultimately cheating themselves out of
joy
love
trust
intimacy
respect
satisfaction
camaraderie
cooperation
pleasure
companionship
well, the list goes on ... you get the picture
a lie is a lie
a white lie is still a lie
people came up with 'white lie' for self-justification
remember the story of the boy who cried wolf ?
in the end, when it mattered most, nobody believed him because of his lies
i leave you with:
Proverbs 19:9 - A false witness shall not be unpunished, and [he that] speaketh lies shall perish.
Proverbs 12:22 - Lying lips [are] abomination to the LORD: but they that deal truly [are] his delight.
Psalms 101:7 - He that worketh deceit shall not dwell within my house: he that telleth lies shall not tarry in my sight.
Luke 8:17 - For nothing is secret, that shall not be made manifest; neither [any thing] hid, that shall not be known and come abroad.
1 John 2:4 - He that saith, I know him, and keepeth not his commandments, is a liar, and the truth is not in him.
Proverbs 12:19 - The lip of truth shall be established for ever: but a lying tongue [is] but for a moment.
John 8:44 - Ye are of [your] father the devil, and the lusts of your father ye will do. He was a murderer from the beginning, and abode not in the truth, because there is no truth in him. When he speaketh a lie, he speaketh of his own: for he is a liar, and the father of it.
Revelation 21:8 - But the fearful, and unbelieving, and the abominable, and murderers, and whoremongers, and sorcerers, and idolaters, and all liars, shall have their part in the lake which burneth with fire and brimstone: which is the second death.
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